Lake Arrowhead & Crestline Communities

You really do need to see a dr--even if you don't want to do fertility treatments you should be getting your annual exams and they should be checking for any major problems.
There is a cool website fertilityfriend.com that you can use to track your temperature and other fertility signs. It will teach you how to do your chart and help determine when/if you are ovulating.
And don't listen to the naysayers. You aren't too old. Change of life babies were probably more common back before everyone took birth control for granted. Yes there is a higher chance that as you get older you will have a baby with problems, but it is still most likely that the baby will be normal.
Good luck!

Thanks Funcheeks. I will be 56 in January.

momofdj, I did not have a hard time growing up. I just wish my father was not my grand father.

Hi BBC, I have to agree with you here. My DH is some years older than me and went through the same thing you did. It was extremely hard for him to lose both his parents at such a young age.

My father was 40 when I was born and I do not feel that I suffered because of his age. He made sure I had a fun life. He is still living and functioning well in his 80's. He tried to live a healthy life and take care of himself. I wanted to go water skiing but that was not his thing, instead we would go hiking, to the beach, etc. People would assume he was my grandfather and he thought they were just ridiculous for assuming he was not my father.

momofdj, maybe you should be happy with the children you already have and call it quits. As long as your young stud is ok with it what does it matter. Somethings just aren't meant to be a second time around. There is always adoption...together!

Theresa, You're to be admired for telling your truths.

In a poll taken awhile back I read that 70% of Americans wouldn't have children if they had to do it all over again.

liberty4me, you just brought up a good point. As a boy, I would have loved going water skiing with my Dad but he was 20 years older and sadly always just out of reach mentally, physically and emotionally. Skipping a generation and having a kid is not fair to the kid. That's just my experience and HO.

Hi bearlady!

momofdj, My father did what you are trying to do after having children prior. My half brother and sister who are 18 years older were hurt tremendously by my father's choice to create a new family with a younger wife. Please consider your oldest son's feelings. I would recommend that you go to family counseling with him and your husband to get an educated assessment.

I'd just like to say how heartily SICK I am of seeing this thread appear and reappear. Enough, already.

Thank u all for your posts.Just so u know, we have gone to therapy.And I have gone to see my OBGYN.I'm fit as a fiddle.